The journey of adoption is as unique as each of the families that go down the path. However, one thing I believe each family can agree on is that having an ally, a rock, and a coach to help along the way can make a huge difference. My husband and I knew we would be growing our family through adoption, and through the years of our marriage we talked about what it might look like when we took that first step, but that was just it, taking that footstep seemed daunting and overwhelming. Even with my background in social work, I felt like I didn’t know all I needed too, and my husband felt like a stranger to the process. Then we found Angel Adoption. We had a video chat with them and immediately we felt like, oh...WOW...okay, so they’re going to walk us through this! We felt like we had that ally, rock, and coach we needed to start our adoption path.
Let me be clear, Angel never promised we’d have a placement. If any adoption firm does promise you that, then turn away from them because that is a promise no human could or should make. What angel DID promise was thoughtfulness, support, and answers to our questions, whenever we had them, whatever they were. We loved hearing from our adoptive parent coordinator each month. She would talk with us, cry with us, and dream with us while keeping our feet firmly grounded.
We had the pleasure and honor of being close with our daughter's birth parents. Among the many things I learned from them is that the birthmother coordinator at Angel had truly empowered our birth mom and gave her the peace and confidence to make the choice that was best for her and her family. I remember our birthmom telling us that Angel made her feel like she was strong, that it was okay to be asking questions, and that is was a beautiful and safe path to explore.
So, if you're interested in adoption and looking for your rock in this journey, take hold. Know that these women do all they can to take care of these birthmothers and educate the hopeful adoptive parents for the beautiful moment when their worlds collide. One of the most valuable things Angel taught me was this: It is all about the birthmom. It is about her and her baby. You and Angel are just walking alongside of her. To my husband and I, that beautiful sentiment helped to guide us with communicating and cultivating relationships with the birth family. There are no certainties in adoption. Only that it is beautiful if you open your heart to it, no matter what the path is. Angel will help you see that beauty and walk alongside of everyone involved. That, dear families, is what you want. Thank you